I’ve had an awful week full of physical discomforts, depression, anxiety, anger, and a generous dose of uncharacteristic weeping. I don’t really feel like explaining it to the internet at the moment. So I’ll leave it at that, and instead do a little comparison of this pregnancy and my first one, the one that resulted [...]
I miss: a functioning digestive system hunger: For quite a few weeks, my only cues to eat have been 1) the clock, 2) Eric putting food in front of me, and 3) nausea / reflux-y feelings / excess saliva that are incredibly hard to read as ‘hunger’ when they feel more like ‘don’t eat! never eat again! [...]
from Spilt Milk, “Guest Post at Feministe: Feminist Mothers” It’s one thing to be handed a cookie for breeding. It’s entirely another thing to be handed actual, concrete assistance, understanding, and genuine respect for one’s mothering and sadly the latter is too rarely in evidence at a societal level. Importantly, there are many parents who [...]
A couple weeks ago I was walking our dog and had this thought: I should get to enjoy my body without having to change it. Everyone should get to enjoy his or her body without first being required to alter it or try to alter it. Whether I want to change my body is my [...]
Welcome to First the Egg, a collection of practical information, links, and cultural criticism. This site is a feminist intervention in our rigidly-gendered culture of childbirth and parenting. It aims to provide a nonsexist space for people who want to learn, reflect, commiserate, or laugh about being pregnant, giving birth, and helping children grow up whole and happy.
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what I’m looking like these days: belly photos, c.19-22 weeks pregnant