Category Archives: pain/suffering

links for thought, August 2011

from Amanda Steen at NPR’s The Baby Project, “Birth: In the Comfort of Home” (a 20-year-old journalist’s account of witnessing a homebirth) What I can say, is that I definitely felt encouraged by one of Shannon’s midwives, Erin Fullam, who said to Linda and me, “People talk about how painful contractions are because they’re so [...]

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Adrienne Rich, Of Woman Born: thought-provoking passages (1 of 3)

from Adrienne Rich’s Of Woman Born: Motherhood as Experience and Institution, Norton (NY), 1976: Meanwhile, the potential sources of [childbed fever] went unexplored, and women continued to die–not from giving birth but from acute streptococcal infection of the uterus, in no way inevitably linked with the birth-process. It killed one Mary Wollstonecraft, of whom we know, [...]

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on bullying, and why I insist it didn’t ‘make me stronger’

I was bullied in late grade school and junior high. It was horrible. I cried every day on the way to school for a long time. I imagine people reading that paragraph, rolling their eyes, and saying ‘join the club.’ I understand that my experience was a pretty common one and that it may seem [...]

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What makes a ‘good’ birth experience? Or, dude, if you were in labor for 50+ hours, where do you get off saying it was wonderful?

I think of my birthing experience as a really, really good one. So it always sort of throws me when someone reads Noah’s and my birth story or hears me talking about it and reacts as though it were something along the lines of a nightmare. A very long nightmare. A nightmare the reader/listener does not [...]

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links for thought, April 2011

from Sarah Whedon at Reproductive Rites, “Feminist Coming Out Day and Sacrifice” Yes, I’ve given my time, my energy, my body, my heart, my will, my planning, and my love to raising my child in the way I believed was best for her and for me. I’ve lent my resources toward that most sacred of [...]

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