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Comment on at home with two children while the Mr. works a full-time office job: week 1 by Beth

Beth — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 20:48:04 +0000

We just made a similar transition, although the second baby isn’t here *quite* yet. My partner took a salaried, more than full time, mostly-out-of-the-house job that started June 1. Previously he was a contractor working almost entirely at home. The transition has been challenging for all of us: none of us are feeling like we get enough time together; I’m doing way more parenting than I was before; Jeff feels like he doesn’t get any time to himself.

Yesterday I was fighting a gnarly cold. Jeff left for work around 8:15 and got home around 7. He brought dinner, because I didn’t have the energy to cook. We ate. He hung out with the kid for a while. I went to bed around 8:30, and the two of them did bedtime. Then Jeff did laundry and ran the dishwasher (chores I’m not physically capable of at this point in my pregnancy — I can’t carry laundry baskets down to the basement or move our dishwasher across the kitchen to plug it into the sink), did some personal chores, and worked until about 1 a.m. It’s ridiculous.

We’re anticipating that things will get both easier and harder once the baby arrives — easier because, after recovery, I should be able to do all my normal household tasks again, and harder because, ack, two children!

Comment on at home with two children while the Mr. works a full-time office job: week 1 by ec

ec — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 04:38:59 +0000

we just transitioned from both of us working to just my spouse working after the birth of our second child. He is having the hardest time adjusting as he feels like we’re all home hanging out without him. Our society is really messed up, especially on the lack paternity leave and quality affordable daycare. desperately wishing we were living in france for our children’s early years.

Comment on at home with two children while the Mr. works a full-time office job: week 1 by annajcook

annajcook — Mon, 17 Jun 2013 19:13:37 +0000

Our society is fucked up, for this distribution of hours between work and the rest of life to be so normal and near-compulsory.

Amen. Even with a relatively flexible job that I love, it can feel like that during the workweek.

But I’m glad to hear you and the wee ones are adjusting to your daily rhythm to some extent. Yay coffee?!