A few of the more interesting or useful posts I read last month, with excerpts …
from Rixa Freeze at Stand and Deliver, “Feminism & Mormonism: A Conversation with Kathryn Soper”
I’ve never fit any of the typecasts that come with being an LDS woman and mother, with being a feminist, or with pursing advanced education. In academic settings, my husband’s colleagues shy away from my (increasingly visible) role as mother and seem relieved when we turn the conversation to my scholarship. At church, my multiple degrees and later entry into motherhood (at the old age of 28!) make me the odd woman out at times.
But I like these contradictions. I like living with one foot in both worlds. In fact, I don’t see these two “women” as living separate or conflicting roles. And thanks to the efforts of my feminist foremothers, I have the freedom to choose my life’s path — or rather, paths.
from Annie at PhD in Parenting, “Parenting Styles to the Extreme”
Why can’t we celebrate the wide variety [of] great ways that parents can raise a family, rather than victimizing those we perceive as “doing it wrong”?
from Elizabeth at Spilt Milk, “Who Hears You When You Speak about Rape?”
What you say about rape — any rape, alleged or fictional or otherwise — matters. What you say, what I say, what journalists say, what your hairdresser says, what teachers say, what doctors say, what police say, what Julian Assange says, what your kid repeats at school: all of these utterances contribute to our cultural understanding of rape. And when what we hear time and time again is some version of apologism or some perpetuation of a rape myth like sluts can’t be raped or women always cry rape or nice men aren’t rapists then all we do is make the noise of rape culture louder and the voices of victims and survivors ever more silent.
You have a choice, when you speak about rape, any rape.
from Lisa at Gems of Delight, “Meditating on Dying: Part 1. Arriving at ‘Thank You’”
When both of my children were born, I found myself thinking about death and dying. In Tibetan Buddhism, it is said that child birth is the closest we can get in life to the experience of death. The birthing process and the process of dying are strikingly similar – baby is coming, no matter what one does, and mom (and partner!) has to eventually let go, allow, and go with the flow of a force beyond her yet includes her…no matter if this is a “natural” birth or a c-section. Dying is similar in the sense that death is coming – we might be able to put it off for awhile, but eventually we die. And eventually we all let go, allow, and a force beyond us moves through us.
from Blue Milk, “Killing Fun” (just read it; it’s funny)
(also) from Rixa Freeze at Stand and Deliver, “A Proactive Approach to Breastfeeding”
I would argue that there is a lot you can do proactively to ensure a successful breastfeeding relationship. A proactive approach to nursing your baby covers three main elements:
1. Individual choices
2. Institutional policies & care provider actions
3. Uncontrollable circumstances