As regular readers know, I’m working on a feminist book about parenting. Will you help me write a better, more inclusive project by answering some questions?
This week’s topic: allowing our children to be weird:
- Do you perceive a tension between allowing our children to be ‘different’ (especially but not exclusively in terms of gender norms) and protecting them or helping them become successful? (For instance, think about a boy wanting to wear a princess dress to kindergarten: you may support the impulse but also worry about teasing and other unpleasantness directed at both him and you.) How do you understand or think about that tension, balancing act, false dichotomy, or whatever it is?
- If you’re a parent, do you draw lines in terms of which non-mainstream behaviors you cheerfully encourage (or allow, or fund)? If so, where do you draw those lines, and how do you implement that decision?
- Have you ever felt unsure about what to do in this sort of situation? Have you ever made a call that you felt really good about, or not so good about? Tell me the story …
- By commenting on this post, you are giving me permission to quote what you say here in my book. Please indicate the age(s) of your child or children, as well as whether you’d like to be identified by full name, first name only, or a pseudonym of your choice if I end up using your words.
- Feel free to email your responses instead of commenting here, if you prefer: molly at firsttheegg dot com.
- Please answer any question (or questions) that strikes your fancy, in any way, at any length. Anything relevant to these topics is welcome, even if what you have to say is not really related to the questions. I’m so grateful for any thoughts you offer!