As regular readers know, I’m working on a feminist book about parenting. Will you help me write a better, more inclusive project by answering some questions?
food & eating beyond infancy: We obsess over Breast vs. Bottle, but what about the food and eating issues that arise from toddlerhood through adulthood?
- Have your views on food and eating changed as you’ve parented?
- In your relationship(s) with your child(ren), do you deal with food pretty much how your parents did with you, or differently? Does any of this have anything to do with your feminism?
- People seem to hit a lot of food anxiety/conflict with A) toddlers/preschoolers and B) older children and adolescents (I’m thinking especially of the period when dieting rears its ugly head). Do you have any wisdom, or just frustration, to share about either moment?
- Are you worried about any food-related body image issues for your children and in your parenting? How do you work with that stuff, practically and emotionally?
diapers & toilet learning
- What’s something you wish you’d known about diapers/diapering/toilet learning before you started? Practical tips, realistic expectations, general info?
- Has your feminism impacted your approach to toilet learning? Or to the world of cloth-vs.-disposable diapers? (That sounds unlikely at face value, I know, but some strains of feminism don’t exactly sit easily with mainstream “potty training” approaches, the marketing of diapers and toilet learning aids are super-gendered like all other children’s stuff, there’s ecofeminism, and there’s the argument that women tend to get stuck doing the extra labor involved in avoiding disposable stuff, so … anybody?)
- By commenting on this post, you are giving me permission to quote what you say here in my book. Please indicate the age(s) of your child or children, as well as whether you’d like to be identified by full name, first name only, or a pseudonym of your choice if I end up using your words.
- Feel free to email your responses instead of commenting here, if you prefer: molly at firsttheegg dot com.
- Please answer any question (or questions) that strikes your fancy, in any way, at any length. Anything relevant to these topics is welcome, even if what you have to say is not really related to the questions. I’m so grateful for any thoughts you offer!